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Post by biteybird on Oct 6, 2015 2:25:03 GMT -5
I am going on a School Camp with 6 autistic kids (3 of my own students and 3 from another class) and will be the teacher in charge…so from this Monday 12th to Wednesday 14th October Bonnie has to endure the company of her non-preferred human - my husband.  I must admit I am feeling quite anxious about what will happen while I'm gone - noise, most definitely, and zero out-of-cage time, most likely. It's going to be tough on hubby and Bonnie and I hope that I won't return to find two MORE feral creatures than when I left. Wish us luck...  |
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Post by Jan and Shah on Oct 6, 2015 3:10:13 GMT -5
The main thing is that they will both survive while you are away. Just concentrate on that and don't worry about the chaos you will face when you get home  |
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Post by easttex on Oct 6, 2015 4:27:51 GMT -5
I always worry a little on these trips to Houston. Allie and my husband have a troubled relationship. His fault, though he refuses to understand that. But even the time I was gone for two nights, everyone survived. She's terribly sensitive, so I'll bet Bonnie will be fine. I wouldn't even hazard a guess about your husband, though. |
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Post by aaron on Oct 6, 2015 9:32:03 GMT -5
Hey, there's always the possibility it will end up being good for both of them. I'm sure regardless it will be okay... and once you get through this exercise you won't have to worry as much about it next time.
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Post by siobhan on Oct 6, 2015 13:58:45 GMT -5
Just think how happy both of them will be to see you when you return! I was away from home just overnight, not even 48 total hours, when I had an appendectomy, and Daddy was, well, let's say kindly, a little overwhelmed. He gave everybody tiel food instead of their right foods. He didn't clean cages or change water or play with them or tuck them in. When I came home the second night, I had to soothe hurt feelings (the birds') and clean cages and sweep and mop and reassure and empty all the food and water and refill it -- when I'd had surgery just the previous day! They swarmed me. I had birds hanging off my shoulders and hair and the hem of my shirt and every one of them squawking about how horrible it was without me. I felt quite necessary!
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Post by julianna on Oct 7, 2015 13:49:29 GMT -5
It is nice to hear what you are going away for biteybird. So very kind of you. Yes your loved ones will survive while you are gone and like Siobhan said just keep thinking about how happy they will be upon your return.
I just got back from a one nite stay as well... and Oscar went to the sitters. She is a good sitter however, no one will ever keep as good care of Oscar as I do. That is what I think and that is what bothers me. Hubby keeps reassuring me and it has been proven over and over... when I get back Oscar is always fine so I worry for nothing.
I absolutely love the come back time. When I picked him up yesterday, he knew it was my voice from the door and when he saw me... he runs right over and starts his little quake. He nibbles my lips over and over and refuses to leave my shoulder. He screams at the other birds... like.... see she is MINE. lol
The returns are so rewarding... you know you are loved.
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Post by Sharyn and Mr P on Oct 7, 2015 15:13:27 GMT -5
Mr P is used to me going away so it doesnt phase him anymore. He does usually BITE ME HARD within a day or 2 of my coming home, normally at the same time he is telling me I'm a good boy and wanting snuggles. I believe that is an attitude bite to inform me that even though he's happy I'm home he's ticked I went away to begin with. Daisy, on the other hand, (foster Goffins) acts like a dog when I come home. She acts as though she hasnt seen me in month (I could've been gone only a few hours), does the Goffins bounce up and down on her perch and hops from perch to cage door over and over, normally losing the rest of the feathers that she hasn't plucked out from me being gone. It's just weird. Be prepared to get a little "love nibble" that will draw blood when you get home |
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Post by biteybird on Oct 8, 2015 5:22:53 GMT -5
Well, I got home late after school today. I had to go shopping for the School Camp on Monday...spent $220 (!) and got home about 6pm. When I walked in the front door hubby said "I've got a new friend". Bonnie was out of her cage! And she'd been out for over an hour without biting hubby! When I walked in and she realised I was there, she straight away nipped him on the finger (not badly, but WHY? I don't know). She's a mystery.
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Post by easttex on Oct 8, 2015 6:19:37 GMT -5
Maybe she thinks she was almost caught in flagrante delicto and didn't want you to know she was being unfaithful to you.  |
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Post by aaron on Oct 8, 2015 9:31:03 GMT -5
See, maybe one-on-one time without you around will be good for them!
Cupcake was definitely a little weird at first when she was getting over her aggression toward my wife-- it was almost like she felt like she was cheating on me and felt timid about being affectionate toward her when I was present. We have done and still consistently do things like both grooming the bird at the same time and giving her kisses at the same time (one on each wing) to try to resolve this... seems like it might help. She didn't accept these things at first but gradually she seems to have learned that there are no rivalries of affection between us. Now she is just a love bucket and wants as much attention from both of us as she can get, basically.
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Post by siobhan on Oct 8, 2015 13:11:58 GMT -5
That's a classic case of the stammering "Um ... you're home early" reaction. LOL Rocky 'Too is quite content to play with his toys and chatter to his daddy while I'm at work but the second I waltz through the door, Daddy becomes chopped liver and hardly dares to walk past the King of All Toos. Just the way some of them are.
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Post by biteybird on Oct 9, 2015 2:16:20 GMT -5
Bonnie regressed again today.  I had to stay back late again at school (yes, on a Friday afternoon!  ) to make sure all the paperwork was ready for camp. Hubby opened the cage door and said "step up", so she stepped up then chomped his finger. Needless to say, she was then not allowed out. She had to wait until I got home and hubby went in the garage for a while before she had some out-of-cage time.  Maybe I should change her name to 'Psycho' (although when she is being noisy we already call her 'Bon Jovi'). |
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Post by easttex on Oct 9, 2015 5:04:59 GMT -5
I hope the three days will be enough to better cement the detente between the two of them!
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Post by julianna on Oct 10, 2015 14:17:18 GMT -5
I think Bonnie will become more affectionate with hubby in time... but... only when you are not around. He is a substitute for you. Hey... in a birds mind sometimes... any affection is good affection. The second time when hubby said step up... and she bit him... he should have tried again later... and I bet you... she would have stepped up. She needed time to see it was him or nothing. lol... poor hubby.
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Post by aaron on Oct 10, 2015 21:35:58 GMT -5
I still have high hopes for their time together while you are gone. And LOL @ Bon Jovi. |
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I had to stay back late again at school (yes, on a Friday afternoon! 
) to make sure all the paperwork was ready for camp. Hubby opened the cage door and said "step up", so she stepped up then chomped his finger. Needless to say, she was then not allowed out. She had to wait until I got home and hubby went in the garage for a while before she had some out-of-cage time. 
Maybe I should change her name to 'Psycho' (although when she is being noisy we already call her 'Bon Jovi').