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Post by Isaac Fontaine on Jul 27, 2015 20:04:59 GMT -5
I have an issue with one of my quaker parrots and I am about at my wits end with him. I have 2 quakers (Kept in separate cages) and (presumed) male and female. Both are rescues and despite some anxiety issues my female is fine.
The problem lies with my male. During a bout where I was homeless and sleeping in my car until I could afford to live somewhere my parents let me keep my birds with them as long as I stopped by to take care of them. I did this for around 3 months and then I was able to move into an apartment and take my birds back. My problem is now with my male.
He used to be very sweet and would sit on my desk and give me kisses and talk sweet to my wife and I. Now since I got him back if I take him out of his cage he attacks me and my wife. And he will go after my elderly cat who has never bothered him. He also yells constantly, and nothing I try will make him stop. He tries to attack me when I give him food or water. And he wont let me handle him anymore. I have tried to work with him to make him trust us again but nothing seems to work and I'm not sure what to do. I thought about giving him away but I couldn't even bare to think of it.
I think my dad scared him while he was with them. He has always had a bad temper and my younger sister said he would yell at my bird and bang on the cage but I have no way to prove that. Is there anything I can do to help him? Please!
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Post by biteybird on Jul 28, 2015 2:40:52 GMT -5
That is a really rough situation. If, as you say, your dad scared the male quaker it may take a LONG time to rebuild a relationship. I don't have any experience with this kind of thing (except when we change Bonnie's water and food she does try to attack our fingers through the dish openings...we don't know why).
There are many experienced Forum members here who will give you some ideas when they see this post.
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Post by easttex on Jul 28, 2015 6:29:25 GMT -5
This is probably not what you want to hear, but when a bird has a sudden behavior change, a medical evaluation should be the first step. Only when he gets a clean bill of health should you assume it is purely behavioral.
Assuming that is the case, start over with him. Forget the big goals and all your expectations - cuddling, kisses, etc. - and just introduce yourselves to him. Figure out what his comfort level is with you, and don't go beyond it. If he's calm when you sit next to his cage, sit there and talk softly to him. If he's not calm move away until he is calm, and sit there. After a few minutes of that, put a treat in his cage as long as he stays calm. Gradually move closer. Do the same sort of back to basics approach with all your interactions with him. When you need to access his bowls, have someone else pass him treats in another part of the cage, as long as he stays there.
Be positive and patient with him, and never let him see your anxiety or frustration. Keep breaking everything down into tiny increments and reward the slightest achievements. Don't give him the opportunity to attack anyone, and if you see you are ever exceeding his comfort zone, stop what you are doing. All of you need to learn to trust each other again, so I would keep him caged until you think he's making some progress. That should give you a start, anyway.
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Post by aaron on Jul 28, 2015 8:05:39 GMT -5
This sounds like a real challenge. Easttex has given you really good advice, and I definitely agree that you should look into health issues first. Our QP Cupcake's demeanor changes from totally sweet and happy to thoroughly grumpy and screaming when she isn't feeling well, even if it's just because she needs a shower. They may hide their symptoms, but they will show you through behavior, and other things like quality of droppings... All of that said, it seems likely that there is a combination of factors, with some definite behavioral components, especially if he encountered some repeat traumatic situations with your Dad. You will need to be very patient and measured in working with him to resolve the matter, and getting him to an avian vet would definitely be a good first move.
Good luck, and let us know how things progress!
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