Post by neurotoxin109 on Jun 4, 2023 13:53:25 GMT -5
I was wondering if any of you have had experience in the way of repairing relationships between your QP and a family member. I've had my QP Loki for a few years and we've come a long way in our relationship. With the rest of the family however not so much.
My wife he will ignore for the most part, sometimes flying over to her to get food from her. Albeit aggressively at times...
My kids are a different story. He will actively chase them and harass them to the point where I don't let him out when they're home and in the living room with us. When I do let him out and they're present and he chases them or flies after them I walk to him and put him away. The kid's reaction to when he chases them is to duck and run, sometimes screaming. That reaction coupled with the first couple years having him the kids thinking it was funny to stick their toys in his cage it's no wonder we are where we are.
They're old enough now to understand their choices determine how Loki feels and treats them so we're going to start healing the behavior cycle.
First step is I'm going to take Loki to get his wings clipped. That mitigates how much chasing he can do.. Beyond that though I'm not sure where I should be starting.
My initial instincts are to set Loki in an equal footing space, such as his training perch on the coffee table or similar. And have the kids talk to him and give him treats? Does that seem like a feasible method? Or do other steps need to be taken before we bring in direct interaction like that.
Even after living with three different parrots over more than 50 years, that's something I've never dealt with. Your approach seems to be a sensible one. Just begin by having the kids sit calmly near Loki's training perch, or near his cage when he's inside. Maybe not too close at first but have them gradually move closer. They can talk softly to him or even read to him. Offering treats might have to wait a bit, until Loki shows signs of being more comfortable with them, but eventually that can help him be more accepting of the kids too. It would be a good way to start and could work well.
Hi Patrick, your plan seems like a good idea to me. Casey had clipped wings when my kids were little, it seemed the safest way to keep letting him be out and not getting out a door held open too long. My daughter still clips him when she babysits him for the same reason for her young kids. Parrots love drama so the kids running and screaming is probably a fun game now for him. He will still be able to fly, just not gain height. I think she trims the first 4 or 5 flight feathers on each side. If your kids are worried about getting a bite and will screech if he lunges when they hold treats just go slowly and try to convince them to be brave and not react. That’s the hardest part of all I think. Good luck, looking forward to updates on your progress
I had a bout of migraines for a month before getting my migraine treatment and the last week was particularly bad. Willow and Jasper had gotten basically no attention for 2-3 days and Willow was really mad. When I came back from my treatment on Wednesday, I got Willow out, feeling already much better. He would not cuddle and kept pinching me hard. I gave him a few treats but he would not be bribed, even after I explained and apologized. Finally I put him back in his cage.
The next day he was still a bit standoffish. Finally on Saturday he was willing to be scritched and cuddled and I basically had to peel him off me when I needed to cook dinner.
I hope he’s done being mad at me because I have lots of housework to catch up with and I can’t spend all day with bird. But I can definitely spare each bird a session of pets and scritches so they are not lonely.
Funny how it hurts my feelings when he gets upset and snotty with me about something like being sick and ignoring him for a few days.