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Post by Sharyn and Mr P on Oct 4, 2014 16:33:23 GMT -5
It is with a heavy heart that I must make a long term trip to MD. Due to the circumstances, I will be unable to take Mr P with me. I could be gone for weeks, I could be gone for months. My daughter's husband's parents will be watching him while I am gone. They have offered to let him live there at their house until I can come home. If I am gone for months, will Mr P forget me? He is originally a rescue, will he think I have just abandoned him and he is, yet again, in a new home? I have webcam software, I do plan on making a video of myself speaking to him that will be played for him every day, but that is all I can do. There may be times that I can call on the phone and "talk" to him but probably not too often. Mr P and I have formed such a special bond in the almost year I have had him. It just breaks my heart to think that HE thinks I am leaving him. I have to wonder how long it will be until he gives up on me  What do you all think? Anyone ever had to leave your FID for a long period of time? |
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Post by msdani1981 on Oct 4, 2014 19:21:53 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, Sharyn! I think the video is a great idea. |
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Post by cnyguy on Oct 4, 2014 19:58:55 GMT -5
The video and phone chats are a good idea. You should sit down with Mr P and explain to him what's happening too-- tell him that you have to leave for a while and reassure him that you'll be back as soon as you can. It's not likely he'd forget you-- but he'll probably be angry with you when you return and may decide to punish you for going away. You'll have to make amends, and may have to work a little on reestablishing your bond with Mr P.
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Post by Sharyn and Mr P on Oct 4, 2014 21:52:11 GMT -5
I will do what I have to do make "amends", I just don't want him to forget me!
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Post by cnyguy on Oct 4, 2014 22:03:03 GMT -5
The old saying goes "Elephants never forget." That should be " Parrots never forget." Parrots have exceptionally good memories, and don't forget their favorite people.  |
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Post by Caseysmom on Oct 4, 2014 22:08:30 GMT -5
Gary is right, Casey knows who she likes and even if they only visit once a year she remembers them, Mr P. will remember you too! Maybe you can skype him too.
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Post by Sharyn and Mr P on Oct 5, 2014 7:36:24 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone, some challenging times ahead for sure |
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Post by Jan and Shah on Oct 6, 2014 15:30:54 GMT -5
He wont forget you but he will be angry with you when you return and will give you a very rough time. Dont worry - with a little patience he will come around but some things may change. A few years ago I was in hospital for 3 days - Shah was with the parrot sitter. He was pleased to see me but some of the things we had been working on had been forgotten and I could never get him to do them again. So when you return, just take each day as it comes and dont put expectations on anything.
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Post by biteybird on Oct 16, 2014 2:47:57 GMT -5
When do you leave? And is MD a US state?(...sorry if I seem ignorant).
I agree with the others. The video idea is good and I wouldn't despair about Mr P forgetting you, but like Jan said he might make you pay for it!
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Post by benegesserit on Oct 16, 2014 21:53:13 GMT -5
Something like Skype is a great way to 'visit' with Mr.P!
FYI: I worked at a pet store when I was 17 who had a sulfur crested cockatoo who lived in the store. I visited when I was 35, and she remembered me, got very excited and loved me up. Birds have *long* memories.
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Post by Sharyn and Mr P on Oct 23, 2014 18:16:10 GMT -5
I'm home now. As it turned out, the short visit in preparation for the long visit to MD (yes, MD is a state, I live in FL, MD is about 1000 miles north of where I live)turned into the long visit and I have been up there for the last month. I was not prepared to leave Mr P, but was unable to come home. So, he stayed at my house, by himself, and my boyfriend and my son in law's parents took turns coming by, feeding him, taking him out of the cage and keeping him company. It was not the ideal situation but there wasn't much I could do about it. I arrived home today and Mr P seems fine. I have no doubt he is going to allow me to experience the annoyance he felt at being left for such a long time, but he DID get good care from people he knows and likes so I'm hoping it won't be too bad.
Matter of fact, he probably was less stressed over being left than I was over the manner I had to leave him.
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Post by cnyguy on Oct 23, 2014 20:41:40 GMT -5
Welcome home, Sharyn. Glad that you and Mr P both made it through your time away. Maybe Mr P will go easy on you and won't punish you too hard for going away.  For anyone unfamiliar with the common abbreviations for U.S. states, MD is the State of Maryland, and FL is Florida. |
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Post by biteybird on Oct 24, 2014 2:16:39 GMT -5
Glad you were able to return quicker than expected! Hopefully Mr P will be nice to you...it's good that he got regular visits from people he knows. Thanks Gary, I knew FL but was absolutely clueless about MD!  . |
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Post by Caseysmom on Oct 24, 2014 8:10:17 GMT -5
Welcome home, sounds like Mr. P was fine, they really do better if they stay in their own familiar surroundings, I bet he will be fine and not be mean to you because you left. Casey never skipped a beat when we were gone for two weeks this summer as she had lots of visitors too |
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