I am having such a hard time getting over the sudden death of my little Quaker, Lili Bird. I have become somewhat unable to normally function. My house is a mess, I have no motivation... And I just keep feeling all this guilt. I had her from a baby for 10 years. She was a bright grumpy old lady from the moment I got her. Very feisty, very intelligent... And a little fluff ball... See you at The Rainbow Bridge, fly free Lili... I love you!!!!!!
I am so very sorry for your loss. It is like loosing a good friend or even a member of your family. We give them so much love and attention that when they leave... it will be a long time to get over this.
Sorry for your loss. Many of us here understand how hard it is to lose a beloved companion parrot. I hope that in time, your good memories of Lili will be a comfort to you and will help ease the pain of your loss.
Post by Jan and Shah on Jul 23, 2016 3:24:59 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. Try and think of the good times you spent together. Take your time grieving and don't bash yourself up over anything. We are all here to help and support you if you want to talk any further.
I feel for you, Gabi. I lost my Quaker, Peppy, not too long ago. It was after a long illness and not sudden as with Lili, but it was devastating. I hope you're able to function normally again soon, but give yourself the time you need to grieve.
Quaker Peppy (RIP my sweet pea), CAG Allie, dogs Wanda and Bonnie, feral kitties Cleo and Antoinette, mice Charlotte and Emily, née Jake and Elwood
Post by beccilouise on Jul 30, 2016 6:16:14 GMT -5
Hello Gabi, I'm really really sorry to hear about the loss of your Lili bird. What you're feeling is very much the normal symptoms of grief and it is totally understandable. I believe it's really important to let yourself feel these things, have time to cry and feel sad and, slowly, you will begin to acclimatise to life where Lili bird is not a constant presence. I know that nothing an possibly replace your Lili, but sometimes having something or someone else to care for can help you to recover. If you cannot bear the idea of getting another pet, as I know many people may not, do you have friends you can spend time with, children to look after or nieces and nephews to see? Sometimes devoting our time and energy to something else can really help us to get better.
Definitely think of Lili though. Perhaps collect some memorabilia, create a memory bank to help you through it. I think, as all Quaker owners here will think, that missing your girlie as much as you are is completely understandable and all of us will go/have gone through the same thing and feel/felt the same way. Our birds are not our pets, they are members of our family and anyone who has not had contact with an animal in this capacity often struggles to understand that. I wish you well and hope you are able to find a way to recover. Lots of warm thoughts.
So sorry for your loss, Gabi. I have been where you are and it is so hard. My cockatiel passed suddenly a few years back and it was such a blow. And my previous dog, Tawny, as well. I found Teddibird in his cage one morning. He was old, but it was unexpected. Tawny became ill quite suddenly. She was only 4. I rushed her to the vet only to be told there was nothing they could do but put her out of her pain. Though I have lost other pets, somehow the ones that go suddenly were the hardest to deal with. Such a blow. So many questions in your mind. I know you will come through this. Letting yourself grieve is the only way. We're here for you.