Post by aaron on Aug 21, 2015 8:36:57 GMT -5
Yeah, despite all of the different suggestions that I make when I talk about how we got Cupcake to stop being aggressive toward my wife, I tend to think that what really made the difference is all of the time that she and Cupcake spent together at home alone together. Granted, Cupcake was never so overtly aggressive as Bonnie, so it was easier for them to coexist. I'm really not sure Cupcake would have ever come around if it weren't for that time they had together without me present.
That's a great article you posted, Easttex. I completely agree with everything it's saying. Cupcake has little tolerance for my high stress moods, and if I am having a bad day she will always react in kind. Even if I am essentially calm, she seems to know if I am worrying, particularly if my worries relate to her behavior adding to my stress. She tolerates it to some degree because anxiety is definitely a deeply rooted part of me and I think she is somewhat accepting of that, but if it crosses a certain threshold of intensity, she is not okay with it. And if my mood goes from stressed to actually negative, she doesn't even want to sit on me any more. As I've noted before, she's definitely helped me make a lot of progress in training myself out of some bad emotional habits as a result.
That's a great article you posted, Easttex. I completely agree with everything it's saying. Cupcake has little tolerance for my high stress moods, and if I am having a bad day she will always react in kind. Even if I am essentially calm, she seems to know if I am worrying, particularly if my worries relate to her behavior adding to my stress. She tolerates it to some degree because anxiety is definitely a deeply rooted part of me and I think she is somewhat accepting of that, but if it crosses a certain threshold of intensity, she is not okay with it. And if my mood goes from stressed to actually negative, she doesn't even want to sit on me any more. As I've noted before, she's definitely helped me make a lot of progress in training myself out of some bad emotional habits as a result.
